Getting Through Conflict

I will freely admit that being cooped up in the house doesn’t always make for boundless happiness in my heart and mind. The little things that our spouse or kids do start to wear the patience layer down quite quickly and next thing you know, things start sliding downhill. I am fairly confident that this has been an event in many households from the other parents that I have spoken to, so I think you might be able to relate. I will first say that this is normal so please do not feel like you are alone in this.

There are a few techniques that can be used in these situations so you might want to see what works best in your house.

  1. When you feel things starting to go off the rails, take a beat, breathe and reevaluate the situation. Maybe say what you want to say in your head first (filter on!) and then rephrase in a kinder way that might have originally come out.
  2. Stepping away for a brief moment might be best if you aren’t able to have that filter on. Remember that this one might make the situation a little more tense because that person might start to feel abandoned, so use this with caution.
  3. Laughter is the best medicine. Infusing humor into the situation can sometimes bring this to a lighter level. Just remember if you want to use humor, that the jokes aren’t pointed at that person but more of a funny take on the events that are unfolding.
  4. Have a way to decompress with each other that doesn’t involve electronics. The art of talking through things are quickly being lost. We are finding that it is getting harder to work through a conflict using words without being distracted. Keep that bond close.
  5. Never go to bed angry. I know this is something grandma used to say but there is a lot to be said to close our eyes with a happy heart.
  6. Remember that we are all experiencing the situation differently. If you have those conversations with your kids and loved ones, you will get to really know what makes them tick and be able to be more empathetic to what they are feeling.
  7. Most importantly, is to pray together. Opening your hearts and mind to God will help you through a situation and is the most powerful thing you can do to combat strife and heartache.

Know that you are doing the best you can navigating these uncharted waters of the world. Stick close to God, hug your loved ones and know that we have read the end of the Book, and it’s going to be just fine!


  • Jennifer Norton

    Jennifer married her Prince Charming, Brandon in 2004. They currently have one amazing daughter, Madi, who was born in 2011 and they were blessed to adopt her from birth. God has also called them to adopt a lovely 15-year-old from Colombia and they are hoping to bring her home in the summer of 2023. Loki is their 4-year-old lab/shepherd/snuggle bug mix who keeps them very entertained and well hugged. She graduated with a BA in Public Relations with an emphasis in Non-Profit Management from Chapman University. Jennifer is currently in her last semester at Gateway Seminary and will be graduating in May 2023 with a Masters in Theological Essentials. She is on the Lake Forest Mission Team focusing on refugee care and other local outreach efforts. Her heart is for those that are hurting and feel that they are in the margins. She wants them to know that they are seen and loved by their Creator. In her spare time, when not studying, she enjoys spending time with family and friends, reading and writing. A little-known fact about Jennifer, is that she was on an Improv Comedy Troupe and misses being on stage, but hopes to combine her love of the stage and Jesus in some creative way.

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