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Making Your Home A Safe Haven

One of the most overwhelming parts of parenting is helping our kids navigate their feelings. Making your home a safe place isn’t just about placing a roof over their heads. It’s about making your house a home where they feel okay to feel whatever they’re feeling.

Let’s look at a few actions we can take to make your home a safe haven:

  1. Recognize the Emotions
    When you see your kids light up, you can say, “Wow, you’re super pumped about that, aren’t you?” If you’re catching the hint of sadness, ask, “Hey, is something bothering you?” These little acknowledgments mean the world. They tell our kids that their emotions matter, building trust between us.
  2. Make Room for Expressing Emotions
    Our homes can be like a cozy blanket for their feelings, whether it’s tears, laughter, or something in-between. We can help by really tuning in. Put the phone down, look them in the eye, and let them talk. Sometimes, just being there to listen is all they need.
  3. Set Boundaries, Not Restrictions
    It’s not about boxing emotions in, but it’s about guiding how they show up. We can show them healthy ways to let it out, like writing or drawing in a journal, taking a breather in a separate room, or going for a walk. Every feeling is normal, but actions need a bit of thought.
  4. Add Empathy to the Mix
    Have you ever tried swapping shoes with your child? It’s like peeking into their world for a minute. Empathy is the secret sauce. It helps us understand where they’re coming from, creating this cool connection.
  5. Encourage Emotional Intelligence
    It’s about understanding people. Let’s nurture their emotional intellect. That’s the stuff that’ll shape how they handle relationships.

Here’s the deal…Parenting isn’t about nailing it every time. It’s about being there. It’s about showing up, hearing them out, putting ourselves in their shoes, and guiding them through their feelings.

Let’s aim for homes where emotions aren’t shushed but celebrated. Places where laughter is loud and tears are welcomed. Because in those spaces, our kids learn how to stand tall, feel confident, and show empathy to the world around them.

You’re doing an amazing job! I know this partly because you’re looking for ways to better your parenting skills. Keep it up! You’re not alone. We’re in this together. Join our YouTube podcast conversation on “Creating A Safe Space At Home” by Clicking Here.


  • Chris Reed | Pastor to Parents | Saddleback Church

    Chris married his beautiful bride, Tina, in 1990. They have three wonderful adult children, Jacob, Kaylee, and Macie Joy. Chris began pastoring at a church in Los Angeles in 1995 where he was the Children’s and Student Pastor. He was the Executive Pastor of Student Ministries at John Maxwell's church in South Florida before he came to Saddleback in 2008 as our Pastor to 20s/30s. He has since served as Pastor to Singles and Pastor to Marriages. He is currently our Pastor to Parents leading the charge for all things Parents Ministry at Saddleback. He earned his Bachelor of Arts Degree in Biblical Studies and his Master of Arts in Organizational Leadership.

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