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19 Ways To Renew Family Unity After Conflict

Conflict is a natural part of family life, but as parents who are followers of Christ, we’re called to be peacemakers. Restoring family unity after a conflict can be a challenging but immensely rewarding endeavor.

Here are 19 ways to guide you on this journey:

  1. Pray Together – Start by praying as a family. Seek God’s guidance and ask for His peace to fill your home.
  2. Family Meeting – Gather everyone together to discuss the conflict, allowing everyone to share their perspectives.
  3. Set Aside Ego – Put aside your pride and focus on the bigger picture…rebuilding love and trust within your family.
  4. Listen Actively – Give each family member a chance to express their feelings without interruption. Show empathy and understanding.
  5. Apologize Sincerely – If you’ve made a mistake, be quick to admit it and ask for forgiveness from your children. Model humility.
  6. Use “I” Statements – Encourage open communication by using phrases like “I feel” instead of “You always.”
  7. Forgive Freely – Remember that forgiveness is a core Christian value. Teach your children the power of forgiveness through your actions.
  8. Seek Reconciliation – Take steps to make amends with those you’ve hurt. Offer solutions and ways to prevent future conflicts.
  9. Bond Over Shared Activities – Engage in activities your family enjoys together to rebuild connections.
  10. Limit Screen Time – Reduce distractions and create more opportunities for face-to-face interaction.
  11. Read the Bible Together – Study God’s word as a family to find guidance and inspiration for resolving conflicts.
  12. Practice Patience – Understand that healing takes time, and change doesn’t happen overnight.
  13. Encourage Gratitude – Foster an attitude of thankfulness within your family. Count your blessings together.
  14. Model Conflict Resolution – Let your children see you and your spouse handle conflicts in a healthy, respectful manner.
  15. Use Christian Counseling – Seek guidance from a Christian counselor or therapist when needed.
  16. Celebrate Individuality – Embrace the uniqueness of each family member. God created us all with different personalities and strengths.
  17. Practice Acts of Kindness – Small acts of love can go a long way in restoring unity.
  18. Establish Boundaries – Set clear boundaries and expectations within the family to avoid future conflicts.
  19. Keep Communication Open – Encourage your children to express themselves and let them know you’re always there to listen.

Renewing family unity after a conflict is an ongoing process. It requires patience, love, and a commitment to living out the teachings of Christ in your home. By implementing the above tips, you will help create a harmonious and loving family environment where God’s grace and forgiveness are at the center of your lives.

Click Here to enjoy our On Parents Podcast episode, “Renewing Family Unity” and embark on a journey towards a more connected and thriving family life. I just prayed that God would bless your efforts to bring unity and peace to your family.


  • Chris Reed | Pastor to Parents | Saddleback Church

    Chris married his beautiful bride, Tina, in 1990. They have three wonderful adult children, Jacob, Kaylee, and Macie Joy. Chris began pastoring at a church in Los Angeles in 1995 where he was the Children’s and Student Pastor. He was the Executive Pastor of Student Ministries at John Maxwell's church in South Florida before he came to Saddleback in 2008 as our Pastor to 20s/30s. He has since served as Pastor to Singles and Pastor to Marriages. He is currently our Pastor to Parents leading the charge for all things Parents Ministry at Saddleback. He earned his Bachelor of Arts Degree in Biblical Studies and his Master of Arts in Organizational Leadership.

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