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2 Reminders For Parents Of Teenagers

The teenage years is a crazy time of growth, change and self-discovery for our kids. As parents we often find ourselves navigating through a range of emotions, alongside our teenagers embracing the highs and enduring the lows.

It’s truly a journey filled with moments of joy and hurdles that challenge our patience and empathy. In this short article, I want to share two reminders for parents of teens to nurture a harmonious relationship during this pivotal phase.

1) It’s crucial to practice good communication
Keep the lines of communication open, even when it’s challenging. Listen actively, be empathetic, and encourage honest conversations. It’s easy to fall into the habit of assuming we know what’s best for our teenagers or disregarding their thoughts and feelings as moodiness.

However, taking the time to genuinely listen can significantly impact building trust and fostering connection. When your teen shares about their day, struggles, or aspirations be fully present in that moment. Put away distractions, like your phone, make eye contact, and offer affirming nods or words of support.

Active listening goes beyond hearing words. It involves understanding the emotions causing those words. Validate your teens emotions by acknowledging their experiences without passing judgment. Even if you may not agree with their perspective, showing empathy and respect reinforces the importance of their voice being heard. 

2) It’s important to be a supportive presence
Support comes in various forms, and its effects are profound. Offer encouragement and guidance. Celebrate their successes and provide comfort during challenges. Be their cheerleader and be their coach.

Encouragement is a vital aspect of support. Applaud their character and praise their achievements, whether big or small. Whether it’s showing kindness to others, helping their sibling, acing a test, giving a speech, or scoring a goal, celebrate their successes. Your words of encouragement can boost their confidence and motivate them to reach greater heights in their character, competence, and chemistry with others.

Guidance is another significant aspect of support. During challenging times, provide comfort and reassurance. Life as a teenager can be overwhelming, with academic pressures, peer dynamics, and self-discovery journeys. Be their anchor during storms, offering words of hope and comfort, hugs, and a shoulder to lean on. Your unwavering support can give them the strength to face adversities with resilience.

Offer gentle nudges in the right direction, helping them navigate the complexities of adolescence. Share your experiences and wisdom, but also respect their autonomy and choices. Remember, being a supportive parent doesn’t mean shielding them from every hardship. It means equipping them with the tools and support they need to navigate life’s challenges. It’s about fostering a sense of trust, connection, and mutual respect.

The teenage years are undoubtedly a rollercoaster of emotions and experiences for both parents and their teens. But by holding to these two reminders, we can nurture a harmonious relationship that withstands the challenges and celebrates the triumphs of this pivotal phase. As parents, let’s continue to prioritize open communication and unwavering support, fostering a strong bond that enriches our teenager’s life along with our relationship with them.

For a deeper dive, listen to our podcast episode, “2 Reminders For Parents Of Teenagers | Part 3 of 4”


  • Chris Reed

    Chris married his beautiful bride, Tina, in 1990. They have three wonderful adult children, Jacob, Kaylee, and Macie Joy. Chris began pastoring at a church in Los Angeles in 1995 where he was the Children’s and Student Pastor. He was the Executive Pastor of Student Ministries at John Maxwell's church in South Florida before he came to Saddleback in 2008 as our Pastor to 20s/30s. He has since served as Singles Pastor, Small Groups Pastor, Marriages Pastor, and Parents Pastor. He is currently our Extensions Pastor, leading the charge for Saddleback Church start-ups across the US and world. He earned his Bachelor of Arts Degree in Biblical Studies and his Master of Arts in Organizational Leadership.

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