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2 Phrases Parents Need To Hear Repeatedly

So, here’s something that means a lot to all of us…WORDS. Proverbs 18:21 tells us, “The tongue can bring death or life…” The words we say to ourselves (either in our thoughts or out loud) mean so much in our crazy parenting journey. It’s a rollercoaster ride full of ups, downs, highs, lows, cheers and boos…all playing out in our head.

There are moments when we think we nailed it and moments where we wonder if we’re even getting it right. In the midst of this whirlwind, there are two important phrases that I believe we all need to hear on repeat…not just to hear from others but from ourselves, too.

1) “You’re doing amazing”
Yes, you! Parenting is the toughest job on the planet! From sleepless nights, to soothing meltdowns, to surviving the teenage drama, to parenting adult children, it is at times stressful, draining, and discouraging. So, hearing a simple “You’re doing amazing” is just what we need to hear!

Let’s be real. There are no perfect families and no perfect parents. Perfection is a myth, and parenting is done imperfectly. We’re not aiming for flawless. But we’re aiming for love, patience, and doing our best with what we have.

And I know you’re doing amazing just because you’re reading this post. You care, you want to learn, and you’re intentional. So, the next time you feel like you’re falling short, give yourself a pat on the back and remember that you’re doing an incredible job, even on those chaotic days.

2) “It’s okay to ask for help”
Raise your hand if you needed to hear that. Parenting is not supposed to be done in isolation. Don’t go it alone. There’s no shame in asking for help or advice. Saying, “I need a break. Can you jump in?” or “What are your thoughts on this?” are a necessary part of raising kids.

Whether it’s talking with your family or friends, seeking advice from other parents, or just taking a moment to recharge, asking for help is a sign of wisdom, discernment and strength (not weakness). By the way, the first and most important place to go for assistance, guidance, and rest is to God!

Here are two powerful Scriptures to remember:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” Proverbs 3:5-6 (NLT)

“But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31 (NLT)

Instead of wrestling with the pressure to have all the answers and trying to keep everything together seamlessly, trust Jesus and ask for His help along with the asking for help from others. It’s okay to stumble, to feel overwhelmed, and to lean on Jesus and others for support. 

So, remember these two phrases: “You’re doing amazing” and “It’s okay to ask for help”. Let’s keep cheering each other on, helping fellow parents, and embracing the messy, beautiful adventure of parenthood together. You’ve got this, and you’re not alone!

For a deeper dive, listen to our podcast episode, “2 Phrases Parents Need To Hear Over & Over Again | Part 2 of 4”


  • Chris Reed | Pastor to Parents | Saddleback Church

    Chris married his beautiful bride, Tina, in 1990. They have three wonderful adult children, Jacob, Kaylee, and Macie Joy. Chris began pastoring at a church in Los Angeles in 1995 where he was the Children’s and Student Pastor. He was the Executive Pastor of Student Ministries at John Maxwell's church in South Florida before he came to Saddleback in 2008 as our Pastor to 20s/30s. He has since served as Pastor to Singles and Pastor to Marriages. He is currently our Pastor to Parents leading the charge for all things Parents Ministry at Saddleback. He earned his Bachelor of Arts Degree in Biblical Studies and his Master of Arts in Organizational Leadership.

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