Substance abuse is a growing problem for our children. It interferes with a child’s normal life and causes them trouble in school, at work, and in their relationships. What should you do if you are concerned your child is possibly using drugs, alcohol, or something else?
Suggestions to help support you:
- Open communication
Find a comfortable setting and a time to talk. If they’re abusing a substance, they probably know what’s coming.
- Stay calm and relaxed
You may be stressed on the inside, but on the outside, remain calm. Pause before speaking, keeping your voice in a relaxed tone.
- Use “I” statements
Personalizes your concerns. Say something like, “I noticed you’re having a hard time concentrating while doing homework. Are you okay?” Don’t lecture or cast blame. Disapproval or shaming can cause defensiveness and unwillingness to talk. Speak in a respectful tone, taking their feelings into consideration.
- Ask open-ended questions
Yes-or-no questions don’t allow your child to share openly. Ask questions to create dialogue between the two of you. Develop trust by being willing to listen. Ask something like, “What kind of things are you feeling at that time you want to use?”
- Be positive
Tell them you care for them and their health. You are concerned for their safety. Give them hope by letting them know that you are for them, not against them.
- Help them find support
The first step in recovery is stepping out of denial and into acknowledgement of the problem. Next, help them find professional help. Saddleback Church has a list of therapists you and your child can look over to find someone to help them through their process.
Pray for your child:
“Lord, You are the one who works all things together for good for those who love you and are called according to your purpose. You know my child is struggling with substance abuse. I pray for their healing, and you turn their weakness into strength, their suffering into compassion, and their tribulation into victory. I pray my child trusts your goodness in the middle of their struggles. Please bring people into their life to support their desire to overcome their addictions. Give me wisdom as I help lead them home to you. In Jesus name, Amen.”
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