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Reconnecting With Your Child After An Argument

We’ve all experienced it. Those moments when a heated argument with our kids leaves us feeling like we’re on opposite ends of the universe. But don’t lose hope, because reviving the connection with your child after a disagreement isn’t just a possibility, it’s a key ingredient for nurturing a strong and loving parent-child relationship.

Here are 17 actions you can take that will help reconnect with your child after an argument:

  1. Say, “I’m Sorry” – Start by admitting your own mistakes and offering a sincere apology.
  2. Give Them a Big Hug – A warm, tight hug can work wonders in soothing hurt feelings.
  3. Write a Sweet Note – Leave a little note under their pillow to show them you care.
  4. Laugh Together – Watch a funny movie or silly videos on YouTube to lighten the mood.
  5. Cook Up Some Fun – Bond over making a meal together, especially if it’s one of their favorites.
  6. Ask About Their Day – Show genuine interest in their life, school, and friends.
  7. Take a Hike – Head to the park for a relaxed walk and an easy chat.
  8. Play Their Favorite Game – Spend quality time playing a game or activity they love.
  9. Get Artsy – Unleash your inner artist with some painting, drawing, or crafts.
  10. Listen to Their Music – Even if their music isn’t your style, join in and have some fun.
  11. Surprise Outing – Plan a surprise adventure to a place they’ll enjoy.
  12. Read Together – Pick a book they like and read it aloud together.
  13. Share Some Stories – Open up about your own childhood and life experiences.
  14. Tackle Chores as a Team – Turn mundane housework into an opportunity to connect.
  15. Exercise Buddies – Go for a run, bike ride, or to the gym together.
  16. Heartfelt Conversations – Have an honest talk at a coffee shop about their feelings and yours.
  17. Love Unconditionally – Remind them that your love is unwavering, regardless of any conflicts.

And here’s a powerful Scripture that reminds us of the importance of forgiveness and reconciliation from Colossians 3:13, “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.”

This verse encourages us to be understanding and forgiving, which are essential in rebuilding the parent-child bond after an argument. It’s a reminder that reconciliation is a beautiful and necessary part of our relationships.

Remember, reconnecting with your child after an argument is about taking your time, being understanding, and making the effort to strengthen your bond. Each child is unique, so pick the approaches that resonate most with your relationship. The goal is to nurture the love and trust that make your connection unbreakable.

Click Here to watch our On Purpose Parents Podcast episode, “Reconnecting After Family Conflict | Part 2 of 3”


  • Chris Reed | Pastor to Parents | Saddleback Church

    Chris married his beautiful bride, Tina, in 1990. They have three wonderful adult children, Jacob, Kaylee, and Macie Joy. Chris began pastoring at a church in Los Angeles in 1995 where he was the Children’s and Student Pastor. He was the Executive Pastor of Student Ministries at John Maxwell's church in South Florida before he came to Saddleback in 2008 as our Pastor to 20s/30s. He has since served as Pastor to Singles and Pastor to Marriages. He is currently our Pastor to Parents leading the charge for all things Parents Ministry at Saddleback. He earned his Bachelor of Arts Degree in Biblical Studies and his Master of Arts in Organizational Leadership.

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