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9 Things Dads Wish Moms Knew

Moms, If you’re reading this, it means you care. You’ve just won 80% of the battle by seeking ways to strengthen the incredible parenting partnership that you and the father of your children share!

Let’s start out this post by celebrating the incredible diversity of dads out there, and acknowledging that not all dads are the same. Each of us brings a unique flavor to the parenting table, and that’s something to be cherished.

With that in mind, here’s a list of 9 Things Dads Wish Moms Knew:

  1. We’re Not Just Babysitters – We’re Parents, Too
    As dads, we don’t see ourselves as the hired help. We’re in this parenting adventure together with you. Many of us want to be more than just the backup crew. We want to be hands-on parents, just like you. So, encourage us to dive in and share the responsibilities.
  2. A High-Five Goes A Long Way
    We’re not fishing for compliments…usually, but a simple “thank you” can work wonders for our parenting attitude. Parenting can be really tough, and acknowledgment of our efforts means the world to us. And a high-five now and then, even better!
  3. Our Parenting Techniques Are Sometimes Unique
    Yes, we’ve got our own parenting playbook, and sometimes, it’s a bit like making pancakes without a recipe…unpredictable but delicious in its own way. Let’s embrace our different styles and learn from each other.
  4. Communication Is Key
    Let’s talk! Even when we don’t feel like it. Help us find a good time to discuss our concerns, ideas, and dreams for our family. Keep the lines of communication open, and let’s collaborate on important decisions and parenting duties.
  5. Quality Time Is Our Jam
    Dads treasure those magical moments with our kids just as much as moms do. Whether it’s building epic pillow forts, embarking on backyard adventures, or playing video games, we’re all in for quality family fun.
  6. Balancing Work And Family Is A Tricky Act
    Sometimes, it’s like trying to juggle flaming torches while spinning plates, right? As dads, we’re doing our best to provide for our family while being present for them. Your understanding and support in this balancing act are priceless.
  7. We Need Some “Me” Time Too
    Occasionally, we need a breather. Parenthood can be overwhelming, and it’s okay for us to indulge in a bit of self-care…even if it means hitting the gym, going for a run, or playing a video game.
  8. Trust Our Dad-Radar
    Every now and then, we have our own unique way of doing things. We may sense something with the kids and might not always do it your way. While our methods might not always mirror yours, trust that we’re doing things our way with love and care.
  9. We Love Our Babies
    Our love for our children runs deep. While we might not always express it in the same way as moms, there’s no doubt that they hold a special place in our hearts. They’re our pride and joy, and their laughter and hugs are our greatest rewards.

So, Moms, let’s make this parenting journey fun and awesome! We’re all figuring this parenting-thing out as we go along anyway. Parenting is an incredible adventure, and as Dads, we’re thrilled to share it with you. Here’s to teamwork, love, and the wonderful, messy ride of raising kids together!



  • Chris Reed | Pastor to Parents | Saddleback Church

    Chris married his beautiful bride, Tina, in 1990. They have three wonderful adult children, Jacob, Kaylee, and Macie Joy. Chris began pastoring at a church in Los Angeles in 1995 where he was the Children’s and Student Pastor. He was the Executive Pastor of Student Ministries at John Maxwell's church in South Florida before he came to Saddleback in 2008 as our Pastor to 20s/30s. He has since served as Pastor to Singles and Pastor to Marriages. He is currently our Pastor to Parents leading the charge for all things Parents Ministry at Saddleback. He earned his Bachelor of Arts Degree in Biblical Studies and his Master of Arts in Organizational Leadership.

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