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6 Tips To Argue Less At Home

Are you ever fed up with all the back-and-forth and tension that can bubble up at home? I’ve been there. It’s natural for families to have their fair share of disagreements. But there are some practical steps you can take to dial down the drama and cultivate a more tranquil and joyous household.

  1. Talk it Out
    One of the big keys to turning down the family drama dial is getting everyone to talk openly and honestly. Encourage your family members to speak up and share what’s on their minds without worrying about judgment. When they do, make sure you’re all ears and show empathy. When everyone feels heard and respected, you’d be surprised how many conflicts can be nipped in the bud.
  2. Identify Triggers
    To tackle the drama, it’s important to understand what’s lighting the fuse in the first place. Is it certain topics, like chores or schoolwork, that seem to trigger arguments? Or maybe it’s certain behaviors or patterns of communication? Pinpointing these triggers is step one toward finding solutions.
  3. Chill
    In the heat of the moment, it’s way too easy to let things boil over. But here’s a trick that can really help…practice patience. Teach your kids (and yourself) the art of taking a step back, taking a few deep breaths, and counting to 10 when emotions run high. It’s a simple technique that can stop arguments from spiraling out of control.
  4. Set Some Ground Rules
    Clear boundaries can do wonders to prevent conflicts from popping up. Make sure everyone in the family knows what’s expected in terms of behavior at home. That includes respecting each other’s personal space and privacy. When you know the rules of the game, it’s easier to play by them.
  5. Find Common Ground
    Now, here’s a real game-changer…teach your kids about compromise. Encourage them to work together to find solutions that make everyone happy. Not only does this resolve conflicts, but it also gives your kids valuable life skills they’ll use down the road.
  6. Be a Role Model
    As a parent, your actions set the tone at home. If you’re looking to cut back on family drama, start by leading the way. Show your children how to communicate with respect, resolve conflicts, and keep that patience meter in check. Remember, your actions speak volumes.

As you work toward a happier, drama-reduced home, consider the wisdom of the Apostle Paul from Ephesians 4:26-27, “And don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.” This scripture reminds us of the importance of addressing conflicts promptly and constructively to maintain a harmonious family environment.

Keep in mind, reducing family drama isn’t an overnight transformation. It takes time. Be patient with yourself and your loved ones as you work together to create a more peaceful and harmonious home environment.


  • Chris Reed | Pastor to Parents | Saddleback Church

    Chris married his beautiful bride, Tina, in 1990. They have three wonderful adult children, Jacob, Kaylee, and Macie Joy. Chris began pastoring at a church in Los Angeles in 1995 where he was the Children’s and Student Pastor. He was the Executive Pastor of Student Ministries at John Maxwell's church in South Florida before he came to Saddleback in 2008 as our Pastor to 20s/30s. He has since served as Pastor to Singles and Pastor to Marriages. He is currently our Pastor to Parents leading the charge for all things Parents Ministry at Saddleback. He earned his Bachelor of Arts Degree in Biblical Studies and his Master of Arts in Organizational Leadership.

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