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5 Things Moms Wish Dads Knew

Hey fellow dads! Let’s talk about something pretty important…the stuff that moms wish we just got. You know being a mom is like juggling in a circus, right? Non-stop action, no timeouts, and sometimes it feels like they’re alone in the spotlight with no one applauding the show.

And yeah, while moms are like real-life superheroes, they’re secretly wishing we’d step up to the plate and lend a hand. So, I’ve gathered 5 things that moms are kind of hoping we’d just get:

1) She’s a Team Player
Raising kids is not an individual sport like MMA, Archery, or Swimming (although correlations can be made for each)…it’s a team sport. Moms want us to jump into the game just as enthusiastically as they do.

This means diving (see what I did there) into diaper changes, feedings, baths, and bedtime routines. And as the kids get older, you’re just as involved by helping with homework and being their Uber. But it’s not just about tasks…it’s also about being there emotionally, offering a shoulder to lean on, and cheering her on in this incredible journey.

2) She’s Not Perfect (and That’s Cool)
Moms are Rockstars, but even Rockstars break a string sometimes. They’re as human as the rest of us. They make mistakes, too. And you know what? That’s more than alright! What matters most is their consistent love and dedication for their family. They pour their heart out into things.

We need to be super supportive by being patient and understanding when things don’t go perfectly and get chaotic. We need to be her ultimate cheerleader by giving her a hug and jumping in to help when things go sideways.

3) She’s Running on Fumes
Wrangling kids can be like running a marathon in quicksand – emotionally and physically draining. Moms need a timeout too, just like we do. So, why not take over some of the household action?

Taking on some of the chores and spending quality time with the little ones gives her a chance to recharge her batteries. Give her the gift of regular breaks and getaway retreats while you do your dad-thing.

4) She Needs a Standing Ovation (Sometimes)
Moms often feel like their hard work goes unnoticed. They’re like unsung heroes. But a little gratitude from us goes a long, long way. A heartfelt “thank you” verbally or in a card, gifts of appreciation, and acts of service can show her we notice and value all she does.

5) She’s Our Partner in Crime
Moms don’t want to be the one-parent show. They want to be in this together, side by side with you. They want to make parenting decisions as a team, where both voices matter. As dads, our job here is to not come across as apathetic or controlling. We should communicate openly, include her in decisions, and truly value her perspective.

Alright, fellow dads, there it is…the 5 Things Moms Wish Dads Knew…along with a few things we can do to show we love them, support them, and are right there alongside them. Time to step up to the plate and be the dad you want to be!


  • Chris Reed

    Chris married his beautiful bride, Tina, in 1990. They have three wonderful adult children, Jacob, Kaylee, and Macie Joy. Chris began pastoring at a church in Los Angeles in 1995 where he was the Children’s and Student Pastor. He was the Executive Pastor of Student Ministries at John Maxwell's church in South Florida before he came to Saddleback in 2008 as our Pastor to 20s/30s. He has since served as Singles Pastor, Small Groups Pastor, Marriages Pastor, and Parents Pastor. He is currently our Extensions Pastor, leading the charge for Saddleback Church start-ups across the US and world. He earned his Bachelor of Arts Degree in Biblical Studies and his Master of Arts in Organizational Leadership.

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